Being the partner of an entreprenuer

You always read articles of entrepreneurs, and the sacrifices that they make and the long hours of work they put in and the blood, sweat and tears stuff they do... You also hear about the understanding girlfriend / partner who has been their by their side (in some cases) and saw them through thick and thin and who was supportive and helped them and brought them up when they were down. We always read about how the entrepreneur's life is so hard and difficult ....
https://medium.com/everything-about-startups-and-entrepreneurship/how-quitting-my-corporate-job-for-my-startup-dream-f-cked-my-life-up-3b6b3e29b318

Why don't we ever read about the partner's side of things? Well, I thought it's about time someone spoke about that side of the story....

I'm the wife of an entrepreneur. While that might sound fancy and all that shit, trust me - it is NOT. All the sacrifices that they make? Well, obviously we also need to share those sacrifices.

Now don't get me wrong and call me a selfish person. Of course I am supportive and I do understand the sacrifices that he has made (needs to make) and the ones that we both will need to make; but to be entirely honest - it's not easy .... My husband quoted the above article and told me that he was feeling the exact same things written there... I had read that article (I usually read stuff related to entrepreneurship and things like that) and when he asked me to read it again - especially some part of it I was in no mood to humour him and told him that I'd read it. Well, that didn't go too well with him and he was like if I had read it I would not ask him to do some things that I ask him to do ....

It's like .... It is not fair ... I understand that I should be supportive and be by his side and that it is a difficult decision to have made and life is not going to be easy post that decision being taken; but then ... If I'm in the mood for a snuggle or a kiss - it usually happens that he is not.

It is hard being the partner of an entrepreneur - it means swallowing what you want, it means doing things that you would want to do now at a later stage in life (mostly it wont happen as the time for it has passed) ... It means giving up a lot of things that don't want to ...

Yes, one of you is earning and there is money and it is all right to spend it once in a while - but most of the time it will not happen because of reasons that are obvious to you by now ....

It is not easy being the partner of an entrepreneur.

Bangalore Road Sense

Getting straight to the point .... Bangalore sucks when it comes to road sense. People do not seem to have any concern for others on the road (or even footpath). Nor do they have any concern regarding the environment (no PUC certificates). Forget the environment, they don't give a damn about their own lungs!!

Policemen stand around watching the traffic as it goes on the wrong side of the road in order to beat the signal. They stand around watching jams being created (this is ONLY if they haven't caused the jam in the first place). They randomly stop people and ask for papers/breath test (which is the only good thing they do) - but then this is done only once a week, on Saturdays. They make their money and then they disappear for a week.

PUC Certificate
Auto drivers, truck drivers, Volvo buses, mopeds - ALL these vehicles spew out black / brown smoke - so much in quantity that it becomes difficult to see the road or their number plate if they are in front of you. It is almost as though they are watering plants on the road dividers with putrid exhaust fumes.
Bombay in this manner is at the other extreme. Policemen give you a tough time in case your vehicle emits coloured exhaust - a PUC certificate is MANDATORY !!! (which is why I love that city)

Unnecessary Honking
Drivers (in any vehicle) think that if they honk, the traffic will clear and they will be able to move forward! Little do they realise that the person in them is not moving, not because he doesn't want to, but because he cannot!
They also honk if the signal is red!!! Only because you are not giving them way to go ahead!! IN A RED SIGNAL !!!!

Wrong side Driving
What is with this place? Bikers drive on footpaths (and abuse pedestrians for blocking their way). Autos, cars, bikes drive on the wrong side of the road to beat a signal. I mean, why ? Why do such a thing? What are you going to achieve? Five less minutes on the road? Well, one might say that even those 5 minutes are heaven sent, but little do they realise that if they all followed the rules, they would not crave for those 5 minutes!

Autos Overcharge
Autos in Bangalore have not heard of the concept of "meter" - or even if they have they are reluctant to follow it ... They ask you for Rs20 or Rs30 extra wherever you might want to go! If you ask them to go by the meter, they give you a real dirty look and drive away! They refuse to take you to some destinations - for NO reason whatsoever, they overcharge regularly, they demand extra, they demand double the meter because they will not get a return fare! I mean, what the hell!!! why become an auto driver??? Who gave them licences? Why doesn't the police do anything about such a pathetic situation?
I cam across this app on the Google Play store, and I think everyone should download it : https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.saurabh.bngautocomplain&feature=search_result#?t=W251bGwsMSwxLDEsImNvbS5zYXVyYWJoLmJuZ2F1dG9jb21wbGFpbiJd
You can complain about errant auto drivers, snap a picture of their number plate etc.
All this because, according to the law, an auto driver CANNOT refuse a passenger or demand extra money.

Anyway, I hate the traffic in this city - not because it is there, but because it is COMPLETELY disorganised. And trust me, I'm from Bombay - and that city has more traffic than Bangalore. But then, it is Organised Chaos.

Sometimes .....

Sometimes ..... Sometimes there is so much that you have to talk about ... So much that you have that you want to share ...So much that if you are unable to tell someone you feel like you will burst .... So much, that at the same time if you do not tell someone it will eat you up from inside, make you feel inadequate, like you have no control over your emotions ......

Sometimes, all you want is for someone to understand, someone to listen ... Anyone with some time ......

There is a river raging inside you, like a dam ready to burst ... And all you can do to not show it is bottle it up .....

There is so much that you need to talk about right now .. So much that you need to share ... But, you can't ... It might not be the right time ...... It may not be the right place ......
They might not have the time or the energy to listen ...Everyone has problems of their own .... How can you dump on them ?

You wish you could have a conversation with God .... He would listen ..... Maybe he is one's true friend ...
One's best friend .....
One's only friend ........

It's that day of the year again .......

Well .... It is Valentine's Day again .... Somehow this day always makes me think a lot ... And I mean a LOT lot ....
Thoughts that plague my mind include
(i) It is a marketing stunt
(ii) It is a money making racket
(iii) Is my pessimism because grapes are sour ?
(iv) Wouldn't it be better if one were single on such a day ...... ?

Let me elaborate .....

Frankly, points one and two can be clubbed together .... YES it is a marketing stunt -a money making racket .. I mean, who needs ONE day in a year to express their love to someone ? Why not do it on that person's birthday ? Why not on 1st Jan ? Why Valentine's Day ?? What makes Feb 14th extra special ? It is just another day !!! All these flowers, candy, teddy bears etc are items shop keepers use in order to make money as unsuspecting fools fall for them .....

But then another voice in my head asks me "why are you being such a cynic ? So what if some people want to celebrate one day in a year to make their loved ones feel extra special ? Are you against it because grapes are sour ?" ... And I start to think .... Why am I being so negative towards this day ....
Is it because I don't get anything ? Nah, that can't be the reason ....
Is it because it unnecessarily makes one want something ? Maybe .....
Is it because this particular day fills one up with hope and then in case that image in the person's head doesn't happen, then that person's heart is crushed ? Yes .... That is what it is is what it is ....

I mean ... Think about it .... You get your hopes up, thinking that your special someone will do something for you ... Or you have done something for that special someone .... But then due to circumstances, nothing works out .... You are crushed, right ? I mean, if this were any other day, you wouldn't be so bothered ... But then, because it is Feb 14th, you're terribly upset !

Now, about being single ... Same scenario as mentioned earlier ... All the planning .... And then, it doesn't work out .... Now, if you had been single, you wouldn't have planned in the first place !! :D You would have chilled out ... No expectations to get drowned !!! Being single on such a hyped up day would be soooooo relaxing ... Tension free ..... Might as well not plan and not be disappointed, right ?

Which ever way you look at it .... You don't need one day in a year to express your love ... But then, because there is such a special day in the calendar, you can't help but get your hopes up :)
*sigh* ... Matters of the heart, I tell you .... Much tooooo complicated !

Guess who's back !!!

hahahahahaah !!! I have no frikkin' clue what to write about ... but thought that it is about time that i come back to life !! :)
am sure the two people who follow my blog will be more than pleased :)
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--watch this space for more :P

Potty Thoughts

Have you ever sat in the jon, and thought about stuff? Bet you have :P
Well, these thoughts always seem to plague my mind, even if I'm not on the pot :D

Potty Thought #1 : How do archaeologists find stuff buried deep underground?

Well, doesn't it bother you that people are always excavating and finding buried treasure? I mean, where does the earth come from to bury stuff underground?
Is the earth's diameter constantly increasing? Seems to me as though it is. See, if something gets buried, then technically the level of the ground over there would have risen over time? So that means mud/earth has been deposited over there? Which implies that there should be a cavity somewhere (WHICH DOESN'T EXIST!!!)
So, my funda is that the earth's diameter is increasing. Else, the mountains should have started shrinking in height (if its all the silt that is getting deposited - which aint happening either) .....

Potty Thought #2 : Gay couples symbolise true love

Have you ever thought about it - why do people fall in love with members of the opposite sex? Yeah, you might say it's for the attention, the love, the comfort, the faith etc etc etc. But then, don't you get that from friends? Family? The only reason I can see as to why people get into relationships with members of the opposite sex is for the "action". I mean... Come on, think about it. Your significant other has "parts" you dont have, which makes it all the more interesting and "nice". But on a more serious note, gay couples are in it out of pure love. Lust is not the driving factor, unlike straight couples (as their partners have what they have). Now, why are do straight people get into a relationship? It's more out of lust. I mean, they get the love and attention and faith, trust blah blah from their folks/friends too. But the partner adds the 'zing' to the whole thing.

Think about it :)

You And I...

You sat away, lost in thought
I waited patiently, but troubled, for you.
Somehow seeing you worried made my heart reach out,
'Coz I didn't know if there was anything I could do.

I knew cascading thoughts besieged your mind,
I ached to look inside your head.
Help you sort out what it was that was eating you,
But I stayed away, as you had asked, instead.

And then you took my hand in yours,
My heart clenched several times.
For in your eyes there was warmth and understanding,
Made me want to write prose and rhymes.

We've had some good times together,
Laughing and talking, seems like time stood still.
Felt like we've known each other forever,
Every void, complementing me, you've seemed to fill.

The other day you looked all serious,
You held my hand in yours.
I smiled, as I usually do, when you did so,
Always reminded me of a walk along the sea shores.

A ring you slipped onto my finger,
Time stood still,a moment of pure rapture.
Ecstasy had no limits for me then,
For my heart, body and soul you had captured.